Pedophiles are hunters in camouflage who prey on children.
Sexual predators usually seek an individual of particular sex, age and appearance, such as blond young women, or dark haired eleven-year-old boys.
In the case of pedophiles, they target children of a preferential age and appearance for sexual gratification.
Sex offenders are not psychotic. They don’t hear voices or see things the rest of us don’t see. They carry no psychiatric diagnosis, except perhaps, a personality disorder. They are evil, act without remorse and enjoy the power they have over their victims.
Child rapists exist throughout the world in all professions and all levels of society. They are relatives, teenagers, youth leaders, religious leaders, cops, teachers, fitness and athletic coaches. You trust them. They are everywhere – in your schools, churches and homes. The sexual predators gain your confidence before molesting your children and then silencing them.
20% OF CHILDREN ARE ASSAULTED
1:3 girls and 1:4 boys
¼ of the victimization occurs before age 5
In 2015, Children’s Advocacy Centers in the U.S. intervened in 311,000 cases of child abuse. Two-thirds of these, 205,438 children were sexually abused, and 90% of abusers were related to the child.
We tell children not to talk to strangers, and to scream and fight if they are snatched, but what if they are victimized by people they know and trust?
Pedophiles are invisible unless you know what to watch for. These are some of the traits:
- Target vulnerable children who are lonely, neglected, learning disabled and fatherless
- Befriend single mothers with children of the age they desire
- Adept at lying
- Seek systematic prolonged access to children through, jobs, sports and volunteer work
- Save souvenirs from encounters such as a video, photo, a hair clipping, clothing
- Church affiliations that bring them closer to children
- Excessive friendliness to parents
- Collect child attractants such as toys, trains
These behaviors appear normal on the surface. However, if the person has a number of these traits, your child should never be left alone with him.
For additional information, download fact sheets https://tinyurl.com/y7gvl9jx
or read Eyes of a Pedophile. This true crime book allows you to peer inside the mid of violent child molester Nathanael Bar-Jonah. Personal coded writings, life-long behaviors and victim testimony reveal how he operated and the difficulties law enforcement experienced stopping him.
Researchers have found children who experience sexual abuse may develop anxiety attacks or post-traumatic stress disorder from being placed in a situation where they are trapped, from which there is no escape. If your child’s behavior has changed, if the child avoids certain people including family members, watch for a collection of the traits.
Sexual predators must be reported both to police and child protective agencies to be sure the case thoroughly investigated. Pedophiles victimize children over a lifetime. They never stop.
Betty Kuffel, MD