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Keeping Kids Safer from Pedophiles

March 31, 2014

51-7zjnViaL._AA160_April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month 2014

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One-hundred-fifty children are abducted in the US each day—fewer than 10% of them by strangers. Abduction risk is highest from men known to the child and who have access—friends, relatives, babysitters, teachers, preachers….

Two primary types of child molesters are Stranger Abductors and Groomers.
Child abduction is a huge concern. FBI task forces, specialized local police units and numerous alerts are devoted to combating the problem and rescuing the child as soon as possible.

However, most people do not realize children are much more likely to be repeatedly molested by people known to the family and child-caregivers…people the children have learned to trust.
But the groomers are people in your home and places thought safe for kids. This most common type of pedophile preys on children by endearing themselves to both the family and child.

Groomers are typically males you learn to trust. They are child hunters who camouflage their actions. This allows them to victimize children and go undetected for years, some over a lifetime.

These child molesters exist in all professions and all levels of society throughout the world. They are teenagers, youth leaders, priests, cops, fitness and athletic coaches who gain your confidence before molesting your children. You may not believe they would do such a thing and disbelieve the child who has the courage to report the abuse. This allows victimization to continue. The child is abandoned to the pedophile.

Frightened children will often not disclose their abuse because they are ashamed or silenced by the abuser. The child may have experienced threats of violence against them or their family. Sometimes photos are used as blackmail. Predators tend to target needy children who may be lonely. Homeless shelters, single mothers and children in families where drug use is ongoing are at high risk. Pedophile boyfriends often target a single mom with children of the age they desire.

So what exactly is a pedophile? A mental illness in which mature males have an intense interest in sexual acts with children. The cause is unknown. Victims of molestation and violence do not necessarily become molesters…there is an entity called the cycle of abuse where some who are abused as children grow up to become violent against women and children. Some pedophiles use this theme as an excuse for their behavior. Most abused children do not, themselves, become abusers. As Andrew Vachess aptly stated: Evil is a matter of choice.

Neuroscience suggests functional abnormalities in two brain areas: the amygdala and the limbic system. The amygdala is crucial for stimulus reinforcement such as the fear response. The limbic system governs emotions. Studies are ongoing to identify determinants for pedophilia.

Are pedophiles psychopaths? Many of them are psychopathic. Like Nathanael Bar-Jonah, the pedophile whose life of crime is described in detail in my book Eyes of a Pedophile: Detecting Child Predators, they often portray the following psychopathic traits: No empathy for victims, no remorse, take no responsibility for their actions and are effective pathological liars. Bar-Jonah was so believable, mothers left their children in his care.

Is there effective treatment? No. In an 8 year California prison study on sexually violent predators, there was no difference in re-offense between no treatment and 8 years of intensive psychotherapy. Castration, removing all testosterone stimulation, is not curative. Desires and fantasies persist and they continue to victimize.

What are pedophile characteristics? Many of their behaviors are normal and only taken in accumulated actions does it become obvious the man is unusually interested in children and seeks out close friendships with them. Taken as a single action, the behavior may not be suspect or abnormal. Some examples are: offering to babysit, tickling, wrestling, gifting children repeatedly with expensive items, taking many photographs or unusual poses, home with a room devoted to children when he has no children, single, lives with parents, few friends…many more. One red flag is a single man who travels to hotspots of child trafficking such as SE Asia.

Free PDF Download of a common pedophile characteristics is available on this website.

How can we keep kids safer from molesters and abductors? Vigilance and reporting. If you observe 2-3 actions of concern, never leave your child alone with the individual. If your child reports inappropriate touching, REPORT THE ACTION TO CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES AND THE POLICE.

I have been accused by a few of preaching to parents about how to raise their children. Education is the road to success, but even knowing everything, bad things happen to good people who are diligent in their child care.

I am more sensitized to stopping child abusers than many because three of my relatives were victimized by pedophiles. Like so many pedophiles, none of the perpetrators went to prison because of failure to prosecute. The rapists must be reported and prosecuted. In recent years when so many victimized people have come forward and found acceptance, I hope more victims will report. Children are unlikely to report due to fear and feeling they will not be believed, especially if the pedophile is a prominent educator, family friend or church camp counselor.

Some broad topics for parents to consider:
Nearly half of offenders are relatives.
1:3 girls and 1:4 boys are victims –25% are less than age 5.
There is safety in numbers. Do not let children walk or bicycle alone.
Do background checks on babysitters. www.sexofenders.com
Talk to your children. Teach them appropriate touching.
Educate older children about Internet safety.

Child pornography is epidemic. Most child victims are under the age of 12 and as young as infants. It is illegal to possess, share and sell images. Pedophiles often store numerous pornographic images of children on their computers, and on their cellphones. Using the Child Recognition and Identification System at the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, they have rescued children, prosecuted perpetrators and seized child pornography collections in thousands of investigations. The FBI is working internationally with Europol/Interpol in their efforts to stop child trafficking. In the past year they have identified and broken a trafficking ring, saved numerous children and prosecuted both traffickers and rapists.

As an ER physician, I cared for many child victims and their families. Each time I do a presentation on the topic, many adults thank me for the information and many have reported their own sexual abuse for the first time. Reporting and obtaining counseling are helpful steps in the recovery process.

REMEMBER, THERE IS NO SHAME IN BEING A VICTIM.

THE REAL SHAME IS NOT REPORTING ABUSE BECAUSE THE ABUSE WILL CONTINUE AND MORE CHILDREN WILL BE HARMED.

PEDOPHILES NEVER STOP

For more information: www.childwelfare.gov

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You Tube Lidia Rescue from Antarctica –

March 19, 2014

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This is a documentary video of the crew working on Lidia and getting her airborne.

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TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR HEALTH

February 28, 2014

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Take Care of Your Heart and Your Health

This is the last day of American Heart Health Month but I hope the continuation for health improvement for you. With all the information out there and the great news that obesity in young children has decreased through better eating and more exercise, we need to continue those behaviors into adulthood. For those of us who have already reached adult status or even the dreaded elderly state, making the right food choices and adding daily exercise are still helpful. It’s not too late to take control of your health.

 Remaining active mentally and physically correlates best with longer life. So, even if you or someone you love has diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, or risk factors for cardiovascular disease, all can be improved with the right actions.

Losing weight is probably the most difficult prospect. Most of us like immediate feedback (no pun intended) and reinforcement for good behavior. Because weight accumulates over years, it is unreasonable to believe you will see significant changes in a few days of healthy eating and exercise. It takes time for your good behavior to show, so don’t give up and don’t believe fad diets are an answer to your desires.

The closest thing to rapid weight loss and life-long sustainable weight control is the 5/2 eating plan combined with eating food choices advocated in the Mediterranean diet. If you can do something for one day, you can get up the courage to do it for two. Some of you have heard or read about the 5/2 eating plan before, if you haven’t, take a look at the concept and consider this approach to reducing weight. Studies show that along with weight reduction, blood glucose and insulin resistance decrease, (important in diabetes), cholesterol and blood pressure improve. (This is not for children, Type 1 diabetics, pregnant women or those breast feeding.)

 Not only does weight loss occur with relative ease, you learn to eat the right foods and maintain the control over your health for a life time. This is not a fad diet. The 5/2 eating plan is a way of life and a path to longer life. The plan is the topic of my next blog on www.YourHeartBook.com. Hope you will join me there.

Betty

5,000 MILES ON A FAT TIRE BIKE! – SO FAR

February 12, 2014
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5000milemark On a clear fall day in early September 2012, Mike Potter began his odyssey. He doesn’t do anything half-assed. It’s all or nothing with Mike. You will see what I mean if you take a look at his journey blog including hundreds of photos with videos along his route. The former newspaper owner and an ex-military media expert, Mike enjoys fitness and healthy eating. His line of Relaxed Chaos food and recipes is evolving.

IMG_9355From his home in Whitefish Montana, he pedaled east on a route that will take him around the perimetersleepinglocationoutsidesavannah of the US. The ascent across the Rocky Mountains through Glacier National Park and over Logan Pass was his first test of resolve and endurance. For someone with little camping experience, he has tested his recipes and become a pro – sleeping in a small tent in subzero weather to worrying about nocturnal creatures in the swamplands of Florida…and Mike doesn’t like snakes!

On his Surly Pugsley all terrain bike with over a hundred pounds of gear, this fat-tire bike has carried him across varied terrain andsnow biking through brutal weather. My friend Sue had the same bike in Antarctica; yesterday in front of Coffee DSCF7095Traders in Whitefish there was a Surly pulling a baby trailer; and Mike is putting his through brutal testing. He has experienced many worn out and flattened tires along the way. Friends and business everywhere have helped with repairs and lodging. Support from biking related businesses have eased his expenses and he is always in touch with Base Command at Wheaton’s Bike Shop in Kalispell Montana.

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Thanks for stopping by.

Betty

GO RED FOR WOMEN! – HEART HEALTH ALERT

February 7, 2014

 WEAR RED FRIDAY FEBRUARY 7TH

ECG_heartThe American Heart Association (AHA) chose February as their Go Red for Women alert month in 2003. Their aim was to bring critical information to the public and lower mortality from heart disease. Over the ten year interval, their action resulted in more than a 20% reduction in women dying from heart disease, but cardiovascular disease is still the #1 killer of both men and women.

Each year heart disease kills more people than all cancers combined. If each person learns their risks and reduces them, the likelihood of dying from a heart attack decreases. My book Your Heart - Prevent & Reverse Heart Disease in Women, Men and Children is on sale at a reduced price for the entire month of February to encourage more people to purchase it and learn what you can do to improve health. Instead of a box of chocolates, why not buy yourself or a loved one a copy of Your Heart? The information could save your life and the lives of those you love.

Consider giving Your Heart as a Valentine gift!

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Every time you see a heart image, think about your own heart health and those you love.

Happy Go Red for Women Day!  I hope the men will wear red, too.

Betty

AMERICAN HEART MONTH

February 6, 2014

TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEART

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February brings thoughts of love and heart-shaped boxes of chocolates. My thought today is to help you think about your own heart health and the health of those you love. There are few who don’t like chocolate and actually, valid studies show dark chocolate is beneficial and even a cup of hot chocolate now and then is good for you. One would taste good about now because this morning in northwestern Montana, the temperature is -20 degrees F. It is a sunny day but intensely cold.

When temperatures drop and snow piles up, it is a time when people with heart disease should stay indoors where it’s warm and avoid shoveling. You ask why? Because with narrowed coronary arteries, cold exposure can cause spasm and heart pain. If you have not been diagnosed with heart disease, experiencing chest discomfort in the cold may be a warning that you should see your doctor for a heart evaluation.

Cardiovascular disease is silent. There are no symptoms until the cholesterol plaques narrowing the inside of heart arteries reach a point where inadequate oxygen and blood flow to the heart muscle results in chest pain. Symptoms may be subtle, such as shortness of breath, upper back discomfort or even jaw pain. You may not recognize them as heart-related. You can have more than a 90% blockage and no symptoms. Seeing a physician and being diagnosed before a heart attack occurs can save your life. Nearly 50% of people who have a heart attack die before reaching a hospital.

Because of the increasing obesity in our society, Type 2 diabetes is increasing and with it heart disease. Obese children as young as 5 years old have signs of cholesterol accumulating in their arteries. Type 2 diabetes used to be a disease of old people, now it is seen in overweight teens. In the US, 66% of the population is overweight or obese. If you would like to calculate your heart risks and learn more about heart health, there are many valid sites to gain this information.

Internet sites of value: www.realage.com (a comprehensive health site), I have two blogs addressing health issues: www.YourHeartBook.com (Up-to- date information on heart health) and www.LipstickLogic.com (Women’s Health). In addition, reputable sites are found at major university centers. Information on the Internet is only as valuable as the accuracy of the source so take care with your choices.

Each year heart disease kills more people than all cancers combined. If each person learns their risks and reduces them, the likelihood of dying from a heart attack decreases. My book Your Heart - Prevent & Reverse Heart Disease in Women, Men and Children is on sale at a reduced price for the entire month of February to encourage more people to purchase it and learn what you can do to improve health. Instead of a box of chocolates, why not buy yourself or a loved one a copy of Your Heart? The information could save your life and the lives of those you love.

Consider giving Your Heart as a Valentine gift!

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Every time you see a heart image, think about your own heart health.

Thanks for stopping by.

Happy Valentines Day.

Betty

Back from Antarctica – Expedition Lidia A Success!

January 23, 2014

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After living 45 days in a tent encampment on the ice of Antarctica’s Holtanna Glacier, on January 10th, Sue flew to Cape Town, South Africa. There, she found herself staying in a beach guest house near a white sand beach and the local kite surfing spot. This location was a welcome contrast from sleepless nights in a wind-blown tent and working in the cold. After working for 48 straight hours, her crew flew first to Novo Base, the Russian research installation and then to Cape Town on an Ilyushin Russian cargo aircraft.

Their final days on site proved taxing for everyone. The aircraft was lifted out of the hole on airbags and onto its wheel-skis on Wednesday night and took to the air on Friday. When pilots arrived to fly the DC3-Turbo out, cold dead batteries and engines unable to start delayed their testing and take-off. After sleeping for only 2 ½ hours, on Friday morning Sue was awakened by the whining and coughing of one of the large engines struggling into the smooth sound they had been waiting for. This was soon followed by the second engine taking life. Finally Lidia was purring and back on her feet.

After a 200 meter test taxi run, the 68 year old Canadian pilot said, “We’re rolling.” He boarded Lidia with his co-pilot and the main mechanic. They taxied 1 km and took off with flaps and skis down, ferrying the plane to Novo where they landed one hour later!

After Lidia’s departure, the ground team had 2 hours to take down and pack the entire camp. They boarded a Twin Otter for the flight to Novo. It took two trips to carry everything and the expedition team. Guess what Sue did at Novo—she took a long hot shower and drank a well-deserved shot of Scotch!

About 9 pm, the team boarded the Ilyushin and arrived in Cape Town the following morning. Sue found herself staying at the same location as the Ilyushin pilots, at the Colombian and honorary Paraguay consulate. Relaxing on the beach, swimming in the pool, wine touring, a two day driving photography safari, along with getting around Cape Town, filled a week of relaxation after the arduous accomplishments in Antarctica. Sue arrived back home in Whitefish on January 19th after traveling 55 hours.

The following morning, in 20 degree weather, she walked 1.5 miles to Coffee Traders to meet her waiting friends. She appeared refreshed and says her biological clock will take a while to right itself. Right now, she is awakening at 0300, ready to go!

After additional attention to details and more testing, Lidia headed to the South America via Antarctica, through Central America, Mexico and to the US; then on to Canada where her main base is located. (As of January 25th, she is home and safely hangared.)

 A number of photos with this final blog of Sue’s Antarctic trip will give you a clear picture of the beautiful rugged environment and their tremendous accomplishment. The crew had a few minor injuries and no illnesses, so Sue spent much of her time helping with the digging and extraction of Lidia instead of using her medical skills.

After a short rest, Sue is off to Colorado for a week long avalanche course above 12,000 feet, followed by teaching a number of wilderness medicine courses and a trip to Cordova Alaska for helicopter skiing. Check out her website at: http://www.cboutdoors.com for her teaching schedule and updates.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5NicZ6aNpM Slide show on expedition.

DSC_8671-1Bye for now. Hope you have enjoyed following Sue on her latest adventure.

Betty

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